You should be looking for something you want to commit yourself to because ideas, organizations, and groups that you are only casually involved with, will not only eventually become dull, but they will suffer from your non-committal.
Isn't there a phrase about giving 100% or nothing? Well that is nonsense. Just be upfront about what you can give. For example, if someone asks me to help on a project and I tell them I can give them an hour a week, I will give them 100% for an hour, but that certainly is not 100% of my overall effort.
If you can't make a commitment at all, then don't! I have learned this lesson in a variety of contexts. None of them have been fair to at least one other party involved.
If it is a relationship, then it is unfair to the more committed partner(s).
If it is in a company, then it is only fair to you and your employer for you to quit! Life is not meant to be lived in a half-despondent state.
But the worst is doing things halfway, but claiming otherwise.
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